Name=Kathie Kwok
Pages=LeisureWriting
Comments=Letting-go(Kathie Kwok 02-10-2008)

Thank Kathie for her comment again!

"We spend most of our lives holding on to so many things, usually framed by the past, that we never truly know what it means to be free.Sometimes we think that things can only be accomplished by holding on, whether it’s relationships or situations. In relationships, when you hold on to someone, you are not giving them space or freedom to express themselves and be who they are.When a mistake has been made, sometimes an apology isn’t enough. Feelings are so deep and have been hurt so badly, that you have to prove that there’s been some change and are not going to cause other any more pain. Holding on and not wanting to let go is insecurity. One was afraid and so need to hold on. The moment become stable, secure and confident within, you don’t need to hold on.Somehow it seems that the beautiful memories disappear and only painful memories remain. This is strange because we don’t want to experience pain, and yet to hold onto painful memories. By thinking about these memories, again and again, we are inflicting and creating recurring pain for ourselves. When the other person is not ready to forgive you, the only possibility at that moment is to let go and step away. From their side, there’s rejection because their mind and heart are just not open. Let there be peace in your heart and positivity in your mind and maybe, with time, hearts will heal and the minds will be open. Thankfully, we’re not in this state all the time, but certainly there are periods of our life, situations or relationships in which we get stuck. It’s important to allow ourselves to grow and move forward.Letting go does not mean cutting out, cutting out is painful and sad experience. Letting go is gently move away, disentangle and find that you’re able to let go at the right moment when things are ready to shift in a smoother and less painful process.Allow yourself to be free and at the same time allow space for other will make things and relationship both win".